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Fleshlight Beginners Guide



Guys, if you have ever thought women get all the good stuff when it comes to sex toys, we have great news for you.

Introducing… the Fleshlight.

Fleshlights are perfect for simply enhancing masturbation and, taking it a step further, it is the best item you could ever get as a Male Masturbator. Masturbation is good for you. In this fast-paced world, it is a wonderful, natural stress reliever that is excellent for one’s physical and mental health.

If you have ever thought of getting yourself a ‘little helper’ in this area, we strongly recommend this type of masturbation sleeve. This male sex accessory the outward appearance of a torch or flashlight. The difference is that in place of a bulb there is a space for a bulb to be planted. In this metaphor, your penis is the bulb.

Inside, it is made from a soft, pliable, real-feel material aptly named SuperSkin, designed to give you a feeling that is as close as you can get to skin on skin. It is created to give you the same sensations as you get during penetrative sex. This is done through a combination of two main factors: the textures that stimulate the penis along with various pressure points, and the suction. And whatever your orifice preference is, you will find it here!


Fleshlights work for large, small or average penises alike. They are perfect for intense quickies or long indulgent sessions.

This is currently the world’s biggest-selling male masturbation toy, and the makers reveal that to date they have sold over 7 million. The internet is flooded with reviews by men raving about the body-shaking orgasms, which they say are far more intense than those brought on by hand masturbation alone.

Likewise, Fleshlights are also starting to gain popularity through mentions in popular shows, movies, and on social media. Click here to hear Joe Rogan’s podcast, in which he and his guests discuss which of them has used a Fleshlight, and how good it was!

But these toys are also not singularly used by singles. Fleshlights are being introduced into couple’s play for many partners. They can bring a whole new dimension to foreplay, fantasy, and can also be used to fill the gaps on the nights when the female partner may want to purely be the voyeur.

Girls, we do have a lot of toys at our disposal, so it is only fair that the guys also get a fair shake. And for those nights when you just don’t feel like penetration, this is a sexy gift to give your main man!

Guys, give yourself the gift of love lol! If you are considering taking the plunge, here are some Fleshlight facts to light your way.


There is a fantastic choice of Fleshlights. Really, one for every taste. They come in all different sizes and designs, with varying actions and vacuums. Fleshlights are comprised of:

  1. A sturdy casing. This does not look like anything other than an inconspicuous bulky camping flashlight casing.
  2. A front-end cap: to protect the orifice mold.
  3. A back-end cap: this is used to control the suction.
  4. A flexible, soft sleeve: these are designed to replicate vaginal, oral or anal sex. They come in the shapes of –
  • Mouth
  • Butt
  • Vagina

And, talking of vagina, Fleshlights have a huge array. Do you have any fantasy that would be impossible to replicate in real life? The fantasy designs include aliens and a wide “Freaks’ range.

And now for the really good news… they have vagina molds created from real adult film stars!


These are the exact molded replicas of your favorite adult film stars.
Can you imagine watching a clip of your top sexy superstar, and having her intimate parts right there with you, at your disposal? Are you into Arabella Danger? Bibi Jones? Abigail Mac, or Black Angelica? Premier porn aficionados will recognize those names and appreciate every curve and fold of those sizzling hot porn starlets. Take your fantasies to a whole new level by bringing their perfectly replicated, warm vulvas, booties or mouths… right onto your own lap!


Up front, don’t get a fright when you see the textures – some of them are really intricate, and can look quite extreme. Fleshlight internal sleeves come in over a hundred non-textured and textured designs and some of them may appear a little overwhelming at first. But as soon as you use one, you will find the bumps and ridges deliciously soft and flexible, due to that brilliant Superskin material.

Some of the textures include:

  • Original Texture: this looks like a long tube, smooth inside, with obvious flexibility.
  • Speed Bump: looks like a condom filled with peas!
  • Super Ribbed: has a corrugated look, with loads of tightly packed ridges.
  • Vortex: this one looks like it has been wrapped in thick strands that meet and then separate at short intervals.

Beyond this, there are a massive array of different styles with names like Bump N Grind, Twista, and Cougar. One can only smile at the genius minds that thought them up… and the hundreds of hours they must have spent experimenting!


If you are using Fleshlights for the first time: Use a gentle sleeve, and graduate to the more textured sleeves when you are more acclimatized.

If you have a sensitive penis: Stick to the same rule. Rather use a non-textured sleeve. This way you can just enjoy the smooth sensuality, without the possible risk of being overly stimulated.

If you are circumcised: You can handle little extra stimulation, so feel free to go for the texture. But remember, you may as well ‘start low and go slow’ as you will feel plenty stimulated with a smoother texture (and there is plenty to look forward to).

If you have a slimmer penis: There are brilliantly tighter designs just for you! NOTE: Tighter is not necessarily better for everyone. Just like the more textured designs are not for everyone. That is why there is such a range to choose from.

If you have a larger penis: The general inner length of a Fleshlight is around 9inches, so it can accommodate even the most humungous of men!

If you have any kind of penis at all: You will love a vibrating Fleshlight! This is made possible by 3 individual bullets that are inserted into the Fleshlight ‘side-pockets’. These do not give an overwhelming buzz but are a fantastic addition to the already amazing feelings. Plus, the vibrating bullets are placed at the front so they also create a substantial tightening of the orifice entrance.


A Fleshlight is an easy toy that guarantees satisfaction every time. But besides the simple usability of inserting your penis into the orifice, here are some must-do factors when using yours.

Remove the plastic canal: This has been inserted into the sleeve, to maintain its shape.

Warm it up. The Fleshlight material is designed to keep temperature. This gives it that realistic feeling it is so loved for. Fleshlight do make a Warming Stand. You can soak it in a sink of hot tap water, or you can just hold it under a running tap of hot water. Do not put it in a microwave! Seriously, do not.

Lubrication makes everything better! Use the lubrication down the length of your penis, on the opening of the Fleshlight and on the inside of the tube. Remember, if you are used to having the natural juices of the vagina, that these need to be replaced.

Keep one hand lube free! Do not apply lubrication to the hand that is moving the casing, or you may find it quite frustrating.

Use only water-based lubes, as silicone versions can be damaging to the material.


Get to know your suction cap! The looser it is, the less ‘suck’ in the suction. The more you tighten it, the more suction you create. If you leave the small end cap on your Fleshlight during use, you will notice a suction effect on the backstroke. Using your hand to restrict airflow at the bottom will cause it to increase to an even more suction sensation.

Find new positions, to really get the absolute most pleasure out of your Fleshlight. Like using it hands-free. There are lots of spaces to wedge the toy into safely and securely. Between the mattress and bed-base, or between the cushions of your couch are 2 good places to start! This will already give you so many options for all your favorite positions including missionary and doggy.


Because it is coming into close contact with your skin, it needs to be completely clean. And due to the nubs and bumps, this needs to be done thoroughly,

Rinse the sleeve with liberal use of lots of hot water. Be sure to open it wide, and really let the water do its job. You can even turn it inside out, as the material is so flexible. Particularly with the more textured designs, you need to make sure that you get them super clean. You can get fantastic toy-cleaning products for this as well.

Do not use soaps or detergents! This will damage the soft skin.

After rinsing, use an anti-bacterial sex toy cleaner like FleshWash. Spray it liberally, both inside and out. Do not rinse that off.

Allow it to air-dry, in a well-ventilated area. Please don’t close it up or stash it until it is properly dry as this will render it less-than-fresh when you open it next.

Prolong the life of your toy. Once cleaned you will notice that the texture has changed slightly. This is where you need your Renewing Powder. This brings the toy back to that original skin-like texture. It also preserves the material and protects it from wearing out.

  1. Coat the Fleshlight generously, don’t be shy.
  2. Do this only once fully dry!
  3. Do not use other baby or talcum powders – they contain perfumes and preservatives that will damage the fine material.

Keep the casing clean too. It is simply good practice to keep the entire unit completely clean between uses, to avoid any potential of bacteria lurking.

And if you think that is a lot of aftercare… think of the time you have saved on dates and cuddles.


VAGINA – CLASSIC PINK LADY: This is one of the original designs, and the feeling is so incredibly realistic that it remains a favorite. It simulates the inner smoothness of a woman, and it is ideal for those men who are more sensitive. We love it because it does the job so well and is an unintimidating beginners’ item that remains a firm fave.

MOUTH – THE FLESHLIGHT TURBO: This toy is a bit more subtle as it does not look like a mouth yet gives a hyper-realistic ‘blowjob’. This is due to its 3-layered inner textures which are designed to feel like the lips, the tongue and then the tightness of the throat. We love it because… who doesn’t enjoy great oral sex!

BOOTIE – THE PURE. This anal flashlight provides intense stimulation and has incredible constrictions. For men wishing to experiment with anal, this is a fantastic toy. Practice on this, and you will have lots of stamina for future adventures! We love it because anal is a pleasure that is not always easy to find, and this is a brilliant alternative to the real deal.


Is this enough information to get you started? Have you checked out our range? Is there anything else we can offer you? Please feel free to leave a comment or to get in touch!

Buying a Fleshlight online gives you discretion and the time you need to make your decision. It also offers a range of choice, and there is certainly is a range to choose from! We ensure the most discrete delivery. You can rest assured that the best gift you ever bought yourself, or are sending to a partner, will arrive in a plain box and that nothing on the packaging or on your credit card bill will reflect what’s inside.


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